The Wendy Gunn Blog

I Finally Had to Admit I Was Bitter

For a long time, I did not think I was bitter.

A friend asked me, “Are you bitter?”

I said, “No, I’m just hurt. Disappointed.”

I felt vulnerable. Unsafe. And, exhausted.

I thought I had every right to feel the way I felt. And to protect myself from it happening again.

And some of what happened to me was very painful.

Some of it really was unfair. Unjust. Uncalled for. Not right.

But somewhere along the way, my hurt had quietly turned into bitterness, without me realizing it.

Not all at o...

For years, there was a thought that kept showing up in my mind.

I didn't say it out loud very often.

But I thought it.

Maybe you've thought it, too.

"I do everything around here."

At first, it felt true.

I was carrying a lot.

Managing responsibilities.

Keeping track of details.

Remembering things other people forgot.

Solving problems.

Handling situations before they became bigger problems.

People depended on me because I had proven they could.

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Why Do You Feel Responsible For Everything?

Pressure quietly changes you more than you realize.

Not outwardly at first.

You still show up.

You still handle responsibilities.

People still see you as dependable, capable, and strong.

But internally, something slowly shifts.

Your mind rarely rests.

You think about everything constantly.

You try to stay ahead of problems before they happen.

You carry responsibilities mentally all the time.

And after a while, pressure starts feeling normal.

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